“Admit it. You aren’t like them. You’re not even close. You may occasionally dress yourself up as one of them, watch the same mindless television shows as they do, maybe even eat the same fast food sometimes. But it seems that the more you try to fit in, the more you feel like an outsider, watching the “normal people” as they go about their automatic existences. For every time you say club passwords like “Have a nice day” and “Weather’s awful today, eh?”, you yearn inside to say forbidden things like “Tell me something that makes you cry” or “What do you think deja vu is for?”. Face it, you even want to talk to that girl in the elevator. But what if that girl in the elevator (and the balding man who walks past your cubicle at work) are thinking the same thing? Who knows what you might learn from taking a chance on conversation with a stranger? Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle. Nobody comes into your life by mere coincidence. Trust your instincts. Do the unexpected. Find the others…”—Timothy Leary
“I do struggle because I’m attracted to beautiful things, yet at the same time I am actually very aware, in some sense, their lack of value and that the most important things in life are your connections to other people.”—Tom Ford (via blua)
“Walk with me, hand in hand through the neon and styrofoam. Walk the razor blades and the broken hearts. Walk the fortune and the fortune hunted. Walk the chop suey bars and the tract of stars. I know I am a fool, hoping dirt and glory are both a kind of luminous paint; the humiliations and exaltations that light us up. I see like a bug, everything too large, the pressure of infinity hammering at my head. But how else to live, vertical that I am, pressed down and pressing up simultaneously? I cannot assume you will understand me. It is just as likely that as I invent what I want to say, you will invent what you want to hear. Some story we must have. Stray words on crumpled paper. A weak signal into the outer space of each other. The probability of separate worlds meeting is very small. The lure of it is immense. We send star-ships. We fall in love.”—
Doe Eyes: A softening of the eyes, with relaxing of muscles around them and a slight defocusing as the person tries to take in the whole person. It often indicates sexual desire, particularly if the gaze is prolonged and the pupils are dilated. The eyes may also appear shiny.
Making Eye Contact: Looking at a person acknowledges them and shows that you’re interested in them, particularly if you look in their eyes. Looking at a person’s eyes also lets you know where they are looking. We are amazingly good at detecting what they are looking at and can detect even a brief glance at parts of our body.
Breaking Eye Contact: Prolonged eye contact can be threatening, so in conversation we frequently look away and back again. Breaking eye contact can indicate that something has just been said that makes the person not want to sustain eye contact, for example: they are insulted, they’ve been found out, they feel threatened, etc. This might also happen when the person thinks something that causes internal discomfort. Looking at a person, breaking eye contact, and then looking immediately back at them is a classic flirting action, particularly with the head held low in suggested submission. Long Eye Contact: Eye contact longer than normal can have several different meanings. Eye contact often increases significantly when we are listening, and especially when we’re paying close attention to what the other person is saying. Less eye contact is used when talking, particularly by people who are visual thinkers as they stare into the distance or upwards. We also look more at people we like and like people who look at us more. When done with doe eyes and smiles, it is a sign of attraction. Lovers will stare into each others eyes for a long period. An attraction signal that’s more commonly used by women is to hold the other person’s gaze for about three seconds. Then look down for a second or two and then look back up again. If the person is still looking, they’re rewarded with a coy smile or a slight widening of the eyes. When done without blinking, contracted pupils, and an immobile face, this can indicate domination, aggression, and use of power. Sometimes liars, knowing that low eye contact is a sign of lying, will over-compensate and look at you for a longer than usual period.
Limited Eye Contact: When a person makes very little eye contact, they may be feeling insecure. They may also be lying and not want to be detected.